Hospitals and long-term care facilities often carry a stigma of being cold, sterile, and unwelcoming environments. For many, they evoke overwhelming emotions and discomfort. The desire to visit a loved one tugs at your heart, especially during the Christmas season, but the thought of navigating unfamiliar corridors, encountering other patients, and interacting with busy nursing staff can feel daunting. These barriers, both physical and emotional, can make people second-guess their visit, even when their presence could mean so much to their loved one.

I experienced this firsthand when my mother was recently hospitalized after falling and breaking her hip. Despite my having spent over a decade working as a Licensed Practical Nurse in hospitals and clinics, I felt overwhelmed as I stepped onto the nursing ward. The crowded hallways, beeping machines, and the constant buzz of voices from other patients made the environment challenging to navigate. However, the moment I saw my mother and recognized her need, all those distractions faded away, and she became my sole focus.

My mother is not only facing a broken hip but also struggles every moment with early onset Alzheimer’s Dementia. As I sat by her side, holding her hand while she awaited surgery, I noticed her softly singing phrases from the hymn “Blessed Assurance”: “This is my story, this is my song, praising my Savior all the day long.” I was amazed that she could be singing such a beautiful, meaningful song amid so much pain and confusion. I was immediately touched and awed that despite her suffering, she hadn’t forgotten what was most important to her. I had gone to the hospital to provide comfort and support, but in a beautiful twist, my mother offered me solace and strength when I needed it most.

This experience with my mother underscored the profound impact of simply being present, especially during the holiday season. Christmas is a time for love and connection—a season when even small gestures can create lasting memories. For seniors in hospitals or care facilities, visits from family can be a priceless gift, bringing warmth, comfort, and easing the loneliness that often comes with such settings. While these visits may seem intimidating or even clinical at times, they don’t need to be elaborate to be meaningful. Here are some practical and heartfelt tips to help you make the most of your time with your loved ones this holiday season, spreading joy and creating cherished moments.

1. Don’t Visit in Large Groups
During this Christmas season, consider coordinating visits with family members to ensure that your loved one receives a steady stream of support without the stress of a crowd. Visiting in smaller numbers can be beneficial for both your loved one and the nursing staff. As a former nurse, I’ve seen firsthand how overwhelming large family gatherings can be in a hospital or senior facility setting. While the intention is to provide support, too many visitors can create a chaotic environment, making it hard for the patient to focus on healing. Smaller groups allow for more meaningful interactions and give the nursing staff the space they need to provide care without feeling overwhelmed.

2. Arrange to Go for Shorter Periods of Time, but More Frequently
Instead of planning long visits, consider stopping by for shorter periods more often. Staying for hours can be tiring for both the patient and yourself. By pacing your visits, you can prevent fatigue and keep the time spent together feeling fresh and engaging. Encourage other family members to schedule visits at different times, ensuring that your loved one has company throughout the day. This approach not only provides emotional support but also allows everyone to participate in the holiday spirit, sharing stories and laughter that can uplift your loved one during their recovery or long stay.

3. Bring Favorite Objects or Photo Albums from Home
Familiar items can create a comforting atmosphere for your loved one in a hospital or facility. Consider bringing along their favorite blanket, a cherished stuffed animal, or photo albums filled with family memories. These personal touches can help alleviate feelings of isolation and remind them of the warmth of home, especially during the holiday season. As you flip through the pages of the photo album, you can reminisce about past Christmases, sharing stories and sparking joyful memories that help your loved one feel connected to their family.

4. Bring Favorite Foods (IF allowed)
If your loved one is allowed to eat and doesn’t have surgery planned, consider bringing their favorite foods, especially if they are a picky eater like my mother, who has Alzheimer’s. Holiday treats, such as cookies, homemade snacks, or comfort foods, can provide a delightful reminder of home and the festive season. Sharing a special meal together can create cherished moments, making the hospital feel a little more like home during Christmas. Just be sure to check with the nursing staff about any dietary restrictions or guidelines before bringing food.

5. Communicate with Nursing Staff
Building a good rapport with the nursing staff is essential for your loved one’s care. Take a moment to introduce yourself and let them know that you are there to support your family member. Ask about their care plan, any changes in medication, and how you can help facilitate their recovery. Open communication helps ensure that everyone is on the same page and that your loved one receives the best care possible during their stay.

6. Plan Your Visit
Before heading to the hospital or senior facility, consider planning your visit. Call ahead and check with the nursing staff about the best times to visit when your loved one is most alert and available for interaction. Be mindful of any scheduled procedures or therapies and try to avoid visiting during those times. A little planning can go a long way in ensuring your loved one feels appreciated and supported during the holiday season.

Remember, the heart of every visit is simply being there with your loved one. It doesn’t need to last hours or follow a perfectly planned schedule. What truly matters is letting them know they’re in your thoughts and that you’re there to share a moment together. Your presence alone brings comfort, joy, and a reminder of the love they hold dear. This holiday season, give the gift of yourself—your time, warmth, and care—creating memories that brighten their day and show just how much they mean to you.

At Serving Hands Senior Care, we know how vital connection and care are during the holiday season. If you’re seeking support for your loved one this Christmas and into the new year, we’re here to help. Together, let’s create a season filled with love, joy, and cherished memories.